Welcome to Dear Prudence. I'm your Prudence, Janay Desmond Harris. Today we'll be discussing

letters about persistent friend requests from colleagues, allegations of white supremacy

surrounding graduation attire, and what to do when your biggest relationship issue is

cat litter in the bed, which is a pretty big issue. Here to help me out is Layton Joel

Anderson, also known as my husband. He's the host of the latest slower and

season on Clarence Thomas, as well as seasons 3 and 6. You may have also heard him

on Hang Up and Listen. Normally he just joins me to answer an extra question, only

for members on our slate plus segments, but he's here today for the whole show.

Welcome Joel. Nobody has to pay me for these hours. I mean, he basically can't

professionally or personally say no when we need him to come on. Also, he's got

the bad mic and the bad stool in our office. There's no back to this, so I'm really

playing a hurt today, but anything from my baby. Thanks. I appreciate it. So go ahead

and give us your piece of unsolicited advice. Keep it clean. Wait, are you saying that

because I'll curse you of some other segment? Yeah. Okay. Why that's a plus list. Okay.

You get that. Anyway, unsolicited advice is do not give unsolicited advice. I think that

and I don't know if anybody else has given that. I listen to every episode. I have

heard your advice. No, but I just kind of think that nobody is asking you for advice.

You should take that as a sign that either the people in your life aren't close enough

to you to ask you these questions. They don't think you have good judgment. They don't

think you have good judgment. Or it's like, hey, look, I didn't ask you for this. Why are

you bringing this to my front door? And I don't want to do that to people. I want people

to be. So if people do want to ask me for advice, sometimes people do come to me for advice.

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