Dear LK: My boyfriend is too close with his former coworker

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🗓️ 17 November 2022

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My partner is constantly texting his former coworker and even spent the night at her house. He says they're just friends, but I don't like it. How can I trust him when he ignores my boundaries?

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0:00.0	Today on the show, my boyfriend spent the night at another woman's house against my wishes.
0:04.6	He says they're just close friends, but I'm just not sure I can trust him.
0:08.7	Dear life kit. Dear life kit. Dear life kit. Dear life kit. I have a question for you.
0:14.3	This is Dear Life kit from NPR. How can I become a better caretaker? How do I deal with my
0:20.1	parents' unrealistic expectations? And we're getting personal. I'm catching feelings for someone,
0:27.5	but they're married. I'm your host, Andy Tagle. Every episode we answer one of your most pressing
0:33.6	and intimate anonymous questions with expert advice. I would really struggle in this relationship.
0:41.2	That's today's expert, Sean Galanos. Sean is a certified relationship coach and host of
0:46.5	the Love Drive, an advice podcast for improving communication and intimacy in relationships.
0:51.9	He leads with the idea that love is a skill that you can get better at. Love that. We can
0:56.8	definitely use him help improving that love language for today's question. Stay tuned.
1:03.8	Okay Sean, here's today's question. Dear life kit. My boyfriend and I have lived together for a
1:10.0	year now and dated for two years before that. About a year ago, my boyfriend told me he wanted to go
1:16.0	to a concert. I offered to go with him, but he said he'd rather just go by himself. Then later,
1:22.0	I found out he took a woman he used to work with to the show. I was really hurt and we had a big
1:27.0	argument. I've never met this coworker, but he text her every day. I've tried not to act jealous
1:32.7	and accept that they're just close friends. Recently though, he decided to go visit her, and before
1:38.2	he left, he said he planned to stay overnight because he didn't want to drive back late. I told him
1:42.8	it made me uncomfortable, but he decided to stay anyway. When he got back, he couldn't stop talking
1:48.3	about what a great weekend he had. I've never felt so heartbroken. I told him how hurt I was that
1:53.0	he disregarded my feelings about this. He immediately got angry and said it was my fault for not
1:57.4	trusting him and that he wanted to break up. We ended up staying together, but I'm really struggling.
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