Hey, it's your girl, simply Shanika, and you are now listening to The Goddess Confessions. the goddess confessions.

How do you deal with loneliness? The question of all questions. I am constantly asked how to deal with this and let me just say if you are not comfortable being by yourself you won't be comfortable anywhere. So the first thing is, you have to be

comfortable being along with yourself, being alone with your thoughts, being alone in your own space.

A lot of people struggle with codependency.

They feel like they need someone there constantly to validate or fill some type of void that they have.

And let me say, co-dependency is dangerous and it can definitely ruin your life only because you never see the value in being with yourself

Your value always goes into other people how they make you feel what they can do for you.

But first, how do you feel about yourself?

That's the most important thing. How do you feel about yourself?

And why are you afraid to be alone?

Because if you think that you're going to be alone forever, then you're pretty much writing your story for yourself and you don't know it.

So you gotta believe that everything that you want will come to you.

It's just the process and there's nothing you can do to speed up that process but continue to work

on yourself and continue to go with the flow of the journey and trust and believe that everything will work itself out for you.

Another thing that gets a lot of women in trouble is they allow their loneliness to invite whatever stray dogs off the street into their space.

Okay, I'm just going to put it as bluntly as I can.

Okay?

Do not allow your loneliness to invite anyone into your space, because in those

moments you're very vulnerable. So whatever it is that you want it will come in the form of whatever and you may think that it's exactly what you need in that moment but because you're in such a vulnerable space, because your energy

levels are so down, you're going to attract whatever, and it's going to come all shiny and pretty in the form of what you want and

then you're going to realize that you were blinded by your vulnerability.

So you got duped and that's what happens a lot of times with women when they struggle with co-dependency in relationships and in their life.

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