Dealing with expectations. In this podcast, Eckhart answers questions from a live

audience about issues many people can relate to like what to do when you start

to compare yourself to others, how to turn family arguments into opportunities

for conscious relationships, and surprisingly how anger can be used as a tool

for spiritual growth.

Hi Eckhart. I often find myself comparing myself to other people, my physical

appearance compared to other women, and it gets very tiresome as you can imagine.

And I was wondering if you had any practical advice for helping dissolve this.

Okay, thanks. And I assume sometimes you come out as better than and at

other times as not as good as, is that right? Yes.

And better than feels good and not as good as doesn't. It all feels tiresome to

be honest. That's a good point to reach to get tired of an old pattern like that.

Then you're ready to let go. As the causing miracles puts it comparison is one

of the favorite ego devices to keep the ego going. It keeps itself going,

especially by comparing whether the comparing is to do with external

appearance or comparing other things, evaluating others in comparison to how

in your own mind you evaluate yourself. It could be to do with knowledge,

education, class, social class, strengths, physical strengths.

How many possessions he's worth, such in such a amount of dollars and I'm

worth so much more than he or so much less than he. All kinds of things.

Implied in that is a sense of desire on the part of the ego to enhance its

sense of worthiness and if anybody has less than you or appears less than you or

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