DAVID PISARRA | When Your Marriage Ends, Do This…
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9K Ratings
🗓️ 9 September 2025
⏱️ 73 minutes
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Summary
If you've ever heard the dreaded words, "I love you but I am not in love with you," or, more bluntly, "I want a divorce," you know what follows is a mental and emotional rollercoaster of epic proportion. But what you probably don't know is what to do if that day comes and what your rights might be when it comes to protecting yourself, your money, and your relationship with your children.
My guest today, Attorney David Pissara, has made it his life's work to help men navigate what is likely the most difficult part of his life – post-divorce. Today, we talk about how to avoid conflict during these times while simultaneously protecting your rights, the emotional manipulation many men face and how to confront it, whether or not the family court system is biased and what to expect when dealing with the courts, what indicators to be on the lookout for you to recognize if a divorce is pending, and even how AI may change family law.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:17 – Introduction and Context
01:05 – Why Men Struggle in Divorce
02:58 – Men, Vulnerability, and Leadership
08:33 – Marriage as a Contract
12:37 – The Question of Fairness in Divorce Settlements
17:01 – What Men Should Look for in Women
20:18 – Predictors of Divorce and Commitment
21:27 – The Danger of Social Isolation
25:51 – Balancing Happiness and Sacrifice
28:15 – Feminism, Disney, and Unrealistic Expectations
31:12 – Dating Standards and Preferences
36:12 – The Dreaded "I Want a Divorce" Moment
37:00 – How Women Strategize Divorce
39:23 – Abuse vs. Violence in Relationships
43:40 – How Courts Handle Restraining Orders
46:06 – Why Men Rarely File Restraining Orders
49:40 – Civil vs. High-Conflict Divorces
52:02 – Should Men Stay or Leave the House?
54:38 – Resources for Fathers in Custody Battles
57:46 – Strategies for High-Conflict Personalities
59:39 – No-Fault Divorce and Its Impact
01:04:00 – Handling Loans and Slander in Divorce
01:06:52 – Bias in Family Courts and AI Judges
01:09:59 – Parental Alienation and Legal Strategy
01:11:00 – Wrap-Up and Post-Show Instructions
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| 0:00.0 | If you've ever heard the dreaded words, I love you, but I am not in love with you, or more |
| 0:06.1 | bluntly, I want a divorce. You know what follows is a mental and emotional roller coaster of |
| 0:12.1 | epic proportion. But what you probably don't know is what to do if that day comes and what |
| 0:18.1 | your rights might be when it comes to protecting yourself, your money, |
| 0:21.6 | and your relationship with your children. My guest today, attorney David Bissara, has made it |
| 0:26.8 | his life's work to help men navigate what is likely the most difficult part of his life |
| 0:31.6 | post-divorce. Today we talk about how to avoid conflict during these times while simultaneously protecting your rights, the emotional manipulation many men face and how to confront it, whether or not the family court system is biased and what to expect when dealing with the courts, also what indicators to be on the lookout for you to recognize if a divorce is pending |
| 0:55.0 | and even how AI may change family law. |
| 0:59.0 | You're a man of action. |
| 1:01.0 | You live life to the fullest. |
| 1:02.0 | Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path. |
| 1:05.0 | When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, |
| 1:09.0 | every time. |
| 1:10.0 | You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. |
| 1:15.0 | This is your life. |
| 1:16.1 | This is who you are. |
| 1:17.5 | This is who you will become. |
| 1:19.2 | At the end of the day, and after all is said and done, you can call yourself a man. |
| 1:26.1 | Gentlemen, welcome to the Order of Man podcast. |
| 1:28.3 | I have a lot to talk with you about today, and this is a very important conversation. |
| 1:32.1 | So I'm going to get right into it. |
| 1:34.1 | I do want to just very briefly mention I got an email from Montana Knife Company just a couple of days ago. |
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