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Oh, hey, I'm Kate Bowler, and this is Everything Happens.

Look, the world loves us when we are good, better, best.

But this is a podcast for when you want to stop feeling guilty that you're not living your best life now.

This summer, we're going to look back at some of the best conversations we've had on the show.

And today today I wanted

to revisit the topic of agency. Agency is a word I use all the time, more than people want. It describes

the degree to which a person has the ability to make decisions about their life, to change it, to control it, to direct it.

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