I've been wanting to talk about this for a while because I think I have a lot of insights to share on this matter of dating as a neurodivergent woman.

I'm going to start this off by saying, I don't have a formal diagnosis, guys.

Okay, but my suspicion here, as I've gotten older and I started to notice what's going on, I suspect strongly that I have ADHD, but not the like TikTok ADHD or like the, I'm so awkward and quirky ADHD. No, I mean like severe brain fog when I'm on my period kind of ADHD.

I mean the kind of ADHD where I experienced this thing where it's now making sense to me

why I describe myself as gray as sexual and why I'm able to be alone for long

periods of time. I think it's because when you are on the spectrum and you're highly sensitive

to the environment around you and if you've been used to masking for your whole life,

when you finally have the opportunity

to unmask, i.e. to just like relax into your actual self when no one's around, you really

value that. And I like that a lot for myself. I don't really like the idea of people coming over.

And that sounds so horrible to say. It's not because i don't like my friends or my family

it's more just like when i say i don't like the idea of people coming over it's more just because

i know that i have to be switched on in a way where like once they go home i'm like oh my god okay

i can relax and this sounds really horrible to say but the reason why i feel like I have to say it is because I know someone else feels that way. And I promise you, this links into dating men. But I really want to extra mega clarify that when I say that I don't like people coming over, it's not that I don't like my friends. I love it when my friends come over, especially when they've given me the motivation to tidy up. Because that's another thing with ADHD, right? I don't know about

you guys who might be on the spectrum as well, but you see when your place gets messy, the only

motivation is to invite someone over. Because if I just tell myself, I need to tidy my place.

Because it's just me, I can let that, I can let that

linger for a while. But if I know that, okay, I've put a date in the diary for my friends

come over in three days time, that means I've got 72 hours to tidy this place up. And that

normally works. And that, and I get such a good a good like dopamine and doffins the rotundin

what's like people call it's that combination of the good feelings of like oh my friend's coming over

and I've tidied my place I feel so good about this because then when my friend goes like I've got a

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