This is Dating While Gray, the grown-ups guide to love, sex, and relationships.

I'm Laura Sossy, and I confess, I've gotten really lazy about seeking out romance.

I guess I'm not so secretly hoping someone will just magically appear in my

life. A myth that a lot of us carry is that we're born just knowing how to attract people.

This should just be easy. We can meet someone anywhere we go. And what we fail to acknowledge in

that line of thinking is that that human interaction for dating specifically is learned.

It is learned and the more we practice it, the better we get at it.

That's DeMona Hoffman.

She's a longtime dating coach and she has a new book out.

It details her practical and optimistic approach to helping people who want to couple up.

Demona is sharing her insights. Plus, we'll hear listener stories about the search for love.

That's all on this episode, dating in real life.

When it comes to finding a romantic partner, I've sometimes turned to the woo-woo.

Like that time when I asked a needle chart reader on this podcast to figure out if love is in the stars,

for me and my coronavirus lockdown crush, actor Colin Firth.

Guess what?

Turns out I am as astrologically compatible with Colin as I am with my ex-husband, 83%.

Anytime you get anything over 70%, feel fortunate.

And if you get in the 80s, then you have a chance to even reach the 90s.

But if you start in the 90s percentiles, then you're really one of the fortunate ones

that the universe and the stars and the charts had smiled upon.

Just the other day, I got tempted when a former coworker told me about Soulmatesketch.com.

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