Dating Expert: Why 90% Of Men Will NEVER Get A Girlfriend – Do THIS Instead!

The Iced Coffee Hour

Graham Stephan/Jack Selby

Entrepreneurship, Business

4.6 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 8 June 2025

⏱️ 111 minutes

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0:00.0	What I see a lot of is just so much reliance on online dating.
0:06.0	And the reality is for 95% of guys online and dating apps aren't going to be a fruitful place for them to meet women.
0:14.5	My name is Blaine Anderson, and I'm the founder and CEO of Dating by Blaine.
0:19.7	What are the biggest mistakes the guys under 35 are making?
0:23.1	They aren't meeting women out in real life.
0:25.4	They aren't approaching the women that they see that they're attracted to.
0:28.9	Online dating is really superficial.
0:32.0	5% of men get 95% of the matches.
0:35.4	But that doesn't mean there isn't another way.
0:37.8	I'll do it a 10.
0:38.8	You'll do it for 10.
0:40.3	Defining what makes somebody good at dating has changed so rapidly,
0:44.5	and what you need to be good at does not come naturally to most people.
0:48.7	What are the things that they could start doing immediately?
0:51.2	My biggest piece of advice for a guy who's looking to improve his
0:55.4	score with women is to... Blaine Anderson, thank you so much for coming on the ice coffee hour.
1:05.8	Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here. So you're a dating coach with over 6,000 clients.
1:11.4	You actually made a pitch on Shark Tank and made a deal with Mark Cuban because you're making millions of dollars a year, helping people find the right match.
1:19.6	I did.
1:20.2	I was on Shark Tank.
1:21.6	So what would you say are the top screaming biggest mistakes people are currently making in dating.
1:28.0	Okay. So there's a lot. How much time do we have here?
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