This is Dating Wall Gray, the grown-up's guide to love, sex, and relationships.

I'm Laura Stasi, and when it comes to romance, older does not necessarily mean wiser.

This is part two of Dating 101, and on this episode, we're covering

the first date. I've heard a lot of uncomfortable stories about first dates.

Is it a coincidence they've all been from women?

So I do call them my sweet clueless men. They don't know any better. Oh, I can't tell you how

many times, you know, I've had to help them. That's dating and relationship coach Amy Schoen.

You know, we were raised where, you know, there was more traditional kind of dating.

And, you know, we have these expectations.

And I think a man wants to feel like, you know, he wants to treat a woman nicely.

And we want to feel that way.

And but not everybody is, how can I say, assertive or people don't have certain

skills. So what I hear is, oh, he should really plan something. And men, I promise we're not

picking on you. But I have to say, some of us older women interested in older men are really

confused by behaviors we're encountering. So I've asked Amy to weigh in to help all of us older women interested in older men are really confused by behaviors we're encountering.

So I've asked Amy to weigh in to help all of us out.

First, we're going to hear from Paulina.

She's in her early 50s, has a daughter, and she was married when she came to the United States

from Chile over a dozen years ago. Now that she's divorced, she can't figure out if dating

is different because she's older or because she's dating Americans. Sometimes, Pauline, I can't

even figure out if she's actually on a date. This gentleman and I met him on a meetup group,

super, super nice guy, much older than me.

...