My last memoir, Hourglass, which as I said, is about my marriage and about my family, my current family, my life as a mother,

but much more about my marriage.

When my son, I mean, there's a lot of difficult more about

insecurity and my son, I mean, there's a lot of difficult stuff in hourglass about insecurity and

disappointment and nervousness and, you know, financial insecurity in

particular and ups and downs and I was nervous about giving it to my son

I was very conscious when I was writing it that I did not want to burnish our lives they

they look great and they are great but they are

absolutely fraught and imperfect and as most artists lives are and I wanted that to come through. I didn't want it to be a

grim tale because it's not by any measure but I also didn't want it to be burnished in that sort of like

Instagrammy kind of way. And so when I gave the book to my son, he was reading it in

galleys and we were away. We were actually for the first time at our

conference in Italy, for the first time he couldn't attend it because it was this

junior year in high school. And he texted me when he was reading hourance and he texted me, I'm reading your book, I love it, it's helping me fall asleep at night.

I texted him back and I was like, are you being a wise

I was like, you're like, ha ha ha.

And he wrote back, no, it's making me feel like you and dad are close by.

And it was the single best response that I received of all of the responses I got to

Hourglass because it made me realize that I had accomplished what I hoped to in a human way, which is that my own son who has a front row seat to, you know, this life of ours was able to recognize it in the pages of that book and say,

yes, that's my mom and dad.

And to feel not scared about that, but to feel really buoyed and hopeful about. and creative minds who started movements, built thriving businesses, written

best-selling books, and created insanely interesting art.

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