My toxic, creepy brother has flirted with my future husband in ways that are completely unacceptable.

And now after dealing with his awful treatment towards me and my life, I've decided that I'm going to ban him from my wedding,

causing my family to lose their minds on me as they say that I'm being overdramatic.

Here's what happened.

Okay, so I come from a big blended family and recently bought an engagement ring with my long-term partner.

Now, we're not even officially engaged. I'm just a planner and I have started getting things ready.

We have been together for multiple years and have maintained a pretty close relationship with most of my family.

Although there is family drama all around, my older brother, who we will call Trevor, has been a problem for a while.

I told my mom this weekend that Trevor is not on the guest list, and she has been all over the map. Most recently, she told me that I cannot get married without him there. Now, for a bit of context, Trevor lives in his parents' basement and can be a bit misogynistic. He basically says horrible things about women, and my mom blames it on him being autistic. Now, I am a huge trigger for him. I have a master's degree, and he's still working on his

bachelor's. I also have no problem with this fact, but he believes that I succeed academically and

professionally just to make him look bad. We're in similar fields, but my actual degree is different

from his. He wouldn't even go to

my graduation or my graduation party, because he was very bitter about all of that. A month

before graduation, he said that I only succeeded because it all comes easy to me, and that I throw

it in his face that he struggles academically. Now, I don't feel like I've ever done this, but he has

been very upset by my academic

success regardless. My relationship is also a very sore subject. Right as I started dating my

current partner, my brother's engagement fell apart. It was messy and they were both intense at the time.

He's had a couple of serious partners since then, but I feel his toxic behavior is a part of the

reason he hasn't found a

healthy relationship. He's also been inappropriate with my partner, sat on top of him, sent

Snapchat saying my partner is his boyfriend, and generally made my very kind and supportive

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