COTD Refresher: I Wasn't There For My Dad's Death

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🗓️ 19 September 2024

⏱️ 9 minutes

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From my Call of the Day archives; Donald was recovering from COVID when his dad was admitted to the hospital for heart surgery, and he regrets not being there when his dad unexpectedly died. Searching for advice? Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com

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0:00.0	Time now for a refresher from my Dr Laura Call of the Day Archives.
0:04.6	Remember, you can hear my live radio program weekdays, 2 to 5 p.m.
0:09.9	Eastern time on Serious XM Triumph 2011.
0:16.6	Donald, welcome to the program.
0:18.1	Hi, Dr Laura.
0:20.1	Thank you for taking my call.
0:21.8	Thank you. What's up? I don't know where to start really. I had COVID in December, the first week of December of 2020, and my father had open heart surgery
0:39.6	on December 31st of that month and I wasn't able to be at his surgery even though I
0:49.4	wanted to be there and I was still recovering from COVID. I had it pretty bad, although I didn't have any breathing issues or anything. And I talked to my father the night before because I wanted to be there. He told me to stay home not to try to be there because I wasn't I lived like a hundred miles away from where the surgery was going to be so I wasn't
1:16.7	sure that I was up to driving that car so he told me to stay home and take care of myself.
1:24.8	And the surgery at the time, I had, well, the night before,
1:31.6	I had a very, very bad feeling that the surgery wasn't going to go well.
1:38.4	And the surgery went well, they said he had a valve that was being replaced he had an abscess from
1:47.2	valve and it was being replaced and he come out of the surgery okay but he never never recovered and he passed away later that night.
2:07.1	And I'm just struggling with the regret
2:10.9	and not being here for him and being there for my mother.
2:17.4	Forgive me in the midst of all your pain,
2:21.8	but this is an important correction. It's not regret. It's sadness.
2:28.0	Regret implies that there's something voluntary in this and there was nothing voluntary in this.
2:35.6	Your dad knew you loved him. He knew you wanted to be there. He never woke up after
2:42.4	the surgery. You talked to him and you gave him an opportunity to act like your daddy.
2:47.0	No son, stay home and take care of yourself.
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