Hello there, you attractive, intelligent bunch.

This is Stephen Hussey, your host for the Love Life podcast.

And as I have done before, I am going to read through one of my recent blog posts and talk

about it, give commentary on it and generally chat around the topic, which is that of competition.

Who are you in competition with right now?

Who do you feel you're in competition with right now?

Any of us subconsciously or consciously can't help comparing ourselves to others people

when they go on dating apps, feel that very directly, very sharply, that comparative element.

Many people feel that people are always looking around, potentially choosing other options.

We have internal self-esteem issues that make us pit ourselves against others and see ourselves

as locked in this struggle to win or always scared that someone's going to come along and

take what we have.

I want to talk about why this mentality is so dangerous and what you can do about it,

what the solution is to happily embracing and improving what you already have, but without

feeling like you are trying to win over someone else.

So this article is titled, competition in love is for losers.

You thumb through Instagram and it isn't long until you see photos of Bucson Bikini

girls jumping up and down by a hot tub in a Barlinese resort or an impossibly proportioned

Greek god of a man with shaved pectoral and a torso straight off the cover of a steamy

romance novel.

Then you sit back and look down at your own body.

I don't look like that.

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