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The Daily Motivation

COMMUNICATION Expert: Do THIS To Connect DEEPLY With ANYONE! (Become MAGNETIC) | Charles Duhigg EP 544

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8893 Ratings

🗓️ 4 March 2024

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

Charles Duhigg highlights research showing social connections, not prestige or wealth, most determine happiness and longevity, with double the close friends equating to 20 more years; he argues combating isolation begins with conversation skills, which historically were taught but now are overlooked, causing uncertainty. Duhigg defines "supercommunicators" as those who make us feel heard and valued, a learnable skill not innate charisma, just as babies babble to master language; by demystifying emotional intelligence as a set of competencies like reading, we can reshape our culture to raise kids purposefully developing this "emotional vocabulary". Though digital life enables detachment unlike ever before, we know integration with people truly enriches existence; prioritizing these tools could help reverse trends of loneliness and depression strangling society.

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0:00.0

Hi my name is Louis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:07.0

I saw this quote about the current loneliness epidemic that's happening in the world

0:17.4

but specifically in the US. This was from the I believe the general surgeon

0:22.0

who said the lack of social connection

0:25.2

poses a significant risk for individual health and longevity.

0:29.4

Loneliness and social isolation increased the risk for premature death by 26% and 29% respectively.

0:37.2

More broadly, lacking social connection can increase the risk for premature death as much as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.

0:45.6

Poor or insufficient social connection is associated with increased risk of disease,

0:51.6

including 29% increased risk of heart disease and 32% increased risk of

0:56.6

stroke.

0:57.6

Furthermore, is associated with increased risk for anxiety, depression, and dementia.

1:03.5

And I wanted to start by asking you to reflect on that.

1:06.5

And I'm curious, how can the principles

1:09.7

and super-communicators really help put an end to the loneliness epidemic that we are seeing in the US but also in the world.

1:17.0

It is a fantastic question and probably the most important question to be thinking about right now, right?

1:22.0

So there was this study that was done. They now call it the Harvard Adult Happiness. Yes. You're probably for the longest, longest longitudinal study that's ever been done. And it started over a hundred years ago. It was actually called the

1:33.1

Grant study of first because this guy didn't Graham gave money to start it. And they

1:36.8

started following all these people, originally just students at Harvard, but

1:40.6

then people who lived in tenements in Boston, and as everyone got married and had kids,

1:45.0

they started following them.

1:46.5

What they wanted to figure out is, what is the correlate with future success and happiness,

1:51.5

and most importantly, longevity, health? They had these hypotheses again this is like the 1910s

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