So good old burdo. We have a bunch of emails from the patrons that we can read and answer. What do you say burdo?

Let's do it. This is the psychology and Seattle podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Honda. I'm a therapist and a professor.

My name is Umberto Kastanya and I am a cloud consistency tester. So just a little trigger warning here for everyone.

We're going to be talking about grooming and victimization. We're going to be talking about violence in

Colombian society and trauma and so and especially sexual abuse discussions and so just be very very careful and maybe not listen if you're

going to be harmed by this discussion. This first email is from listener Nata from New York. They write, I felt so seen by the Umberto's attachment style video episode.

Thank you for creating this and thank you to Umberto for sharing. I am Colombian and have a similar story.

So do some of my cousins and other so do some of my cousins and other people I know. I couldn't help thinking, is this something that is prevalent in Colombian society?

If so, did we have a communal trauma that caused it? Burdo, what do you think?

Yeah, I do think there is such a thing as communal trauma. I mean, at the very least if you have a whole bunch of people

experiencing the same similar traumatic events, you would think that just rolling the dice, a sizable percentage of them would experience similar post-traumatic symptoms.

And then when you when you actually have the whole of the country in the grips of a situation that it's not just on the news, it's outside your doors.

Do you want to tell people that don't know what that situation is?

Oh yeah, yeah. So in my case, you know, I grew up in Colombia in the 80s and in the 80s, one of the things that started escalating rapidly was the drug wars where

you know, Pablo Escobar and other drug magnates, they would be battling it out with the United States and with the cops and things because they were making more and more and more and more and more and more and more money.

And then a few things started happening. They would kidnap people left and right. Bombs would blow up left and right because they were fighting between the different gangs.

They would also be trying to take control of the government, literally running for office, absolutely buying politicians, buying police, buying all these things.

And the whole country was constantly watching this unfold. Either daily news, horrible news, every night the news was worse and worse.

Look out your window and you would see people getting assassinated. You would know people that got killed in various different ways.

Bombs would go off in the city, left and right. Kidnappings, you would know about people that got kidnapped. You were afraid of kidnapped.

This was happening and so all of us got, you know, lived through that and bullets went through your house from a driveway.

Absolutely. I had more than once did bullets fly through the windows of the house I grew up in. Luckily.

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