Co-parenting after a separation

My New Life

Kate Garlinge

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4.7 • 654 Ratings

🗓️ 14 December 2022

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

Navigating the ups and downs of divorce looks different in each situation, but there are some universal ways to make it easier on our children. These start with better communication — rules around communicating that put your child first.

Here to help us establish some of these best practices is Dr. Tamara Afifi, a professor in Interpersonal Health Communication at the University of California, Santa Barbara. Her TedX Talk The impact of divorce on children has been viewed some 700,000 times.

Highlights:

[1:29] What are the most common issues that you see with families confronting divorce?

[2:34] What kind of communication is not positive for children?

[3:59] How does divorce affect children in the short-term?

[5:06] What can divorced parents do to support their children’s resiliency over time?

[6:25] What are some best practices for divorced parents?

[9:47] A listener shares a question about maintaining consistency when it comes to childcare.

[11:45] How does divorce impact young children differently?

[13:18] We are closer to our children than in previous generations. How has this changed the way that children experience divorce?

[14:30] How can we differentiate between a divorce-related behavior and something else that might need to get addressed?

[16:07] Tammy zooms the lens out and offers some perspective.

[18:58] Jessica shares her top takeaways.

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0:00.0	Welcome to My New Life, a Love Every podcast.
0:12.3	In this season of the podcast, we take a look at transitions.
0:15.9	From diaper to potty, crib to bed, saying goodbye to pacifiers,
0:20.1	we're here to support you through all these
0:22.8	tricky transitions and more, even the ones that we as parents resist. I'm your host, Jessica Rolfe.
0:32.9	My parents divorced when I was three, and certainly there were impacts in the short term,
0:38.1	but in the long term, I came away from the experience feeling loved by both my parents.
0:43.4	While navigating the ups and downs of divorce looks different for every parent,
0:47.3	there are some universal ways to make it easier on our children. And these start with better
0:52.7	communication, rules around communicating that put your
0:55.8	child first. Here to help us establish some of these best practices is Dr. Tamara Afifi. She is a
1:02.9	professor in interpersonal health communication at the University of California, Santa Barbara.
1:07.8	And our TEDx talk, the impact of divorce on children has been viewed 700,000 times.
1:14.4	Thank you for joining me, Tammy. Yeah, thank you so much for having me. So much of your research at
1:20.7	UCSB focuses on how family members communicate around the challenges that they face. What are the most
1:26.7	common issues that you see with
1:28.2	families confronting divorce? I mean, I think definitely the most important challenge is the
1:34.8	parents' relationship. And that's what we find in the research at large is that it's not
1:41.1	so much about the divorce per se, even though that is obviously hugely important and it's
1:47.7	very, very stressful regardless. But it's really about how the parents communicate with each other.
1:53.8	That's like the most important thing. I would argue in any family structure is how family members communicate with each other,
2:04.2	but that creates kind of like the staple of the family and provides kind of the barometer,
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