Chidera Eggerue - Why Women Are Saying No To Traditional Roles!

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

FlightStory

Leisure, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 652 Ratings

🗓️ 10 December 2024

⏱️ 111 minutes

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Summary

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!” In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth. Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships. With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power. Follow Chidera Here: https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Intro 00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower' 00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos' 00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy 00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father 00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships 00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence? 00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat 00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time 00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women 00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera? 00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance 00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic 00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage? 00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance? 00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego 00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work' 00:55:10 Huel Ad 00:56:12 Tinder Ad 00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy 00:59:40 4B Movement 01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual' 01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix 01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start? 01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego 01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux' 01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera 01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation 01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways 01:49:10 Fiver Ad Sponsored by: Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	My version of independence is save my money and spend his.
0:04.3	Yes.
0:05.0	Use his bricks to build my empire.
0:08.1	Shadera Egero is an outspoken activist and dominatrix whose campaign saggy boobs matter and radical views on feminism catapulted her into the public eye.
0:18.7	Women are our reparations and the people we lay with are the people who are most likely to kill us,
0:23.2	which sounds really dark, but that's the reality we're living in.
0:26.7	For a lot of women, they're enslaved.
0:29.1	Really?
0:29.6	Oh, yeah, of course.
0:30.7	That's the unwritten code of patriarchy.
0:33.3	I have to ask, you are a dominatrix.
0:36.5	Yes.
0:36.9	This is what I always pictured.
0:38.2	Latex.
0:38.9	A woman with a whip.
0:40.1	A man with like a...
0:41.2	The nozzle on.
0:42.2	BDSM is all about exploring power dynamics.
0:45.0	White men who specifically want to be by a black woman.
0:49.8	Okay.
0:50.2	All right.
0:50.6	Everyone is choosing because I need to go into detail of this, please.
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