Hi, and welcome back to Style Your Minds. I'm your host, Kara. Thank you for joining me for another episode of our Champagne Thought of the Day.

Today I want you to shift from the energy of, I hope they pick me to, they need me. It's up to me to decide if I want to share my energy and my gifts with them.

I want you to think about a time where you were really hoping and praying and meditating and maybe even obsessing over someone else choosing you.

Right, maybe it's a guy that you just met or a potential employer or a client that you really want to land.

How often do we give our power away to these people? Right? We don't even think twice about, do I like this person enough to date them?

Or do I actually want to work with this client? Is this client the right fit for me?

I want to talk about the energy of true confidence for a moment because I think a lot of us feel confident,

but when it comes down to these moments of being chosen, it's like we lose it all of a sudden.

We immediately assume that we need that person to want us, to approve of us, to like us, and to recognize our gifts.

We give away our power. We think about everyone else who might be better than us.

And then we work ourselves up into the state of anxiety and insecurity and fear and we go into the worst case scenario mindset.

And oftentimes we talk ourselves out of going for whatever that thing is that we wanted to try in the first place.

So what if you shifted into a space of, do I want to choose them?

Is this the right situation for me?

Do I think this person, company, organization is worthy of my energy and my gifts?

I promise you that this mindset shift is going to change your life.

If you are caught up in this obsessive thinking pattern, right?

If you have these thoughts on loop of, I need to be chosen, I need to be picked.

You know, I need to be validated by someone else. I want you to get out a piece of paper today.

And whatever that thing is that you're hoping to be picked for or chosen for,

I want you to start making a list of all the things you require from that person, that company, that organization.

I want you to flip it, right? So we get out of the obsessive thought pattern and you start making a list.

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