Panoply.

The following podcast contains explicit language.

Madison Perry was always that nice guy with the girlfriend and then he went through one of those

breakups the kind that makes you stop and rethink everything and he realized something

something big in a year he wanted to go to Burning Man. I was talking to a friend who

had just been to Burning Man for the first time and it had been quite an experience

for him and I was like I want to go to burning man but I need to be single when I go

because I imagined I would have all this weird desert sex. He set a goal to stay single for a full year.

And so that was the the spark to make the goal and very quickly I realized it was just a smart thing

for me to do was to reset emotionally a bit before I got into a serious relationship.

The problem of casual dating is that it's easy to fall back into the mode of relationship

dating, especially if you've never really learned how to set those boundaries in the past.

Up into that point, Madison was what he calls a capital N capital G, nice guy.

What it is is a person that I mistook politeness and lack of conflict for being a kind person,

which oftentimes it's not.

So like a nice guy would say,

I don't want to break up, it'll hurt her feelings too much.

But staying in a relationship with someone

you don't really want to be with is unkind.

You're just putting off the inevitable

and it will hurt more when you actually break up.

And he realized that instead of worrying all the time about whether or not his dates would like him,

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