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In the early months of 1996, 20-year-old naval servicemen Patrick Murphy entered a bar in truth or consequences, where he met 23-year-old Kelly Van Cleave.

The pair hid it off immediately, and within weeks of meeting, they decided to tie the knot.

A wedded bliss was fleeting.

Without a place of their own, the newlyweds moved in with Patrick's parents, Janet and Steve.

By their two-week anniversary in July, their marriage was already showing signs of trouble.

The couple were known to argue often, as Patrick was concerned that intimacy wasn't developing as quickly as it liked.

At 9am on July 25, Kelly left the house to go for a walk and cool off after another night spent arguing with her husband.

Before she left, Kelly told her mother-in-law, Janet, that she was going to spend some time with friends.

That evening, Kelly went to the Blue Waters Saloon in Elephant Butte, where she socialized with various friends, including Dennis Roy Yancy and Jesse Ray.

Kelly failed to return home that night.

The following morning, Kelly's husband Patrick received a call from a female friend who informed him that she had seen Kelly at the Blue Waters Saloon.

Patrick's friend said Kelly had been in the company of other men and was acting in a way that she perceived as flirtatious.

She could often know other information about where Kelly had gone or who she had left the bar with.

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