Hey folks, it's Charles Duhigg, the former host of Slate's advice podcast, How To, and the author of The Power of Habit.

I'm teaming up with Slate again for a mini-series based on my latest book, Super Communicators, How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.

It's a deep dive into how to have better conversations about the neuroscience behind how we connect with each other and why the

right questions can transform complete strangers into immediate friends.

The very first time I did this was at a conference.

These were all like C-suite executives.

That's the psychologist Nick Epley.

He paired all those execs up and then he told them that they had to

ask and answer a really personal question. When's the last time you cried in front of another

person? And you could sort of feel the whole room just groan. After 10 minutes, everybody was deep

in conversation. I finally get to 20 minutes. A couple of them are hugging each other.

It was kind of magical that moment, actually. Join me, Charles Duhigg, for super communicators,

wherever you get your podcasts. This episode contains explicit language.

Welcome to Karen Feeding, the show where we raise the next generation together.

I'm Zach Rosen. I am dad to Noah, who is seven, and Ami, who's four.

At the moment, we live in Amsterdam.

I'm Jamila Lemieux. I'm a writer, contributor to Slate's Karen Feeding Parenting

Column and mom to Naima, who is just about 12, and we live in Los Angeles. Well, today on the show,

we're going to be talking about the popular kids. This member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group

has a daughter who's become obsessed with being popular, even though she doesn't seem to fit in with those kids.

So we're going to talk about why this feels so important to this kid and how to convince her that it really, really is not important.

And then, of course, we're going to check in and share what's on our minds this week.

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