Care & Feeding: I’m Struggling to Love My Daughter

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🗓️ 5 August 2024

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

On this episode: Lucy, Zak, and Elizabeth answer a tricky question from a listener who’s struggling to feel love for her daughter. Mismatched neurodivergence might be to blame… but what is a parent to do when they don’t feel connected with their kids? How can they work on translating irritation into love — and grappling with the guilt of not feeling like a good parent? We also check in on what’s happening in the hosts’ lives right now... And then, on the Slate Plus Playground, we’re venting (really, complaining) about the slog that is back-to-school shopping. If you’re not part of the Slate Plus community, we hope you’ll consider joining! Keep reading to learn how. Lucy’s check-in: Not a Sephora kid, just need some stuff Elizabeth’s check-in: Safaris are just watching everything eat 24/7 Zak’s check-in: “You’re gonna have a bike accident” Join us on Facebook and email us at [email protected] to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318. If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get to hang out with us on the Plus Playground every week for a whole additional grab-bag of content — and you’ll get an ad-free experience across the network. And you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Care and Feeding. Sign up now at slate.com/careplus – or try it out on Apple Podcasts. Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This episode may contain explicit language.
0:03.0	Welcome to Karen Feeding, the show we're parent together.
0:08.0	I'm Elizabeth New Camp, I write the family travel blog Dutch, Dutch Goose.
0:12.0	I'm the mom of Three Little's Henry, who's 12,
0:14.6	Oliver who's 10, and Teddy who's 7.
0:16.7	We live in Tokyo, Japan.
0:18.7	Hey, I'm Lucy Lopez.
0:20.0	I host another podcast, The Mama Cita Riga. I'm Mother to Amelia who's 14 and Avery who's 11 and we live very happily in Miami.
0:30.0	I'm Zach Rosen. I host another podcast. It's called the best advice show and I am dad to six-year-old Noah and three-year-old Ami we live in Detroit
0:39.3	Well today we're answering a question from a listener who feels like they might be failing as a parent because they just don't get along with their kid.
0:47.0	We'll talk about how to bridge the gap between your personality and a very different kiddo and what it means when you find yourself feeling
0:53.5	irritation rather than love. After that we'll talk about what's on our mind
0:57.8	this week and there is a lot to talk about. So let's get going. We're going to take a
1:01.8	quick break but we'll see you back here in a minute for our question.
1:07.0	Hey, it's Carval Wallace, host of Slateates Podcast How-2, and we just hit our five-year anniversary.
1:16.7	That's over 250 episodes of life-changing advice on every topic imaginable. And so to celebrate my co-host Courtney Martin and I recently
1:26.2	talked with the show's founder, Charles Doeigh. We had a guest on once. We were talking
1:31.8	about talking to your kids about sex and she said you would never
1:36.0	have one conversation with your kids about table manners and then assume that their table manners are going to be good for life, right?
1:41.7	Instead you have like a thousand conversations with your kids about table manners.
1:45.4	Oh shit, Charles, now I'm worried I haven't had enough table manners conversations.
1:50.2	Definitely talked about sex a lot, but I don't know how much we've talked about table manner.
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