Panoply.

The following podcast contains explicit language. For decades Social Psychologist Arthur Aaron and his wife, Dr. Elaine Aaron,

have been studying romantic love and attempting to create it in a laboratory.

In their most famous study, a heterosexual man and woman enter a lab through separate doors,

and then they sit down face to face and spend the next 90 minutes asking each other a series of increasingly personal questions.

36 of them. And then they stare into each other's eyes,

without speaking for a terrifying four minutes.

Two participants from the study were apparently married

six months later. The study tells the story of love that's

simple, that perhaps you can fall in love with anyone if you just put 90 minutes of

work into it. Years after reading about the study, Mandy Len Catrin tried it. She was at a

bar on something she thought might have been a date and the experience of doing it

changed her life.

Not because she fell in love with the guy,

though she did, but because she wrote about the experience

as a modern love column in the New York Times. This is why I'm Andrea Selenzi,

and the article Mandy wrote,

you might remember it. It was called to fall in love

with anyone do this and it included the 36 questions from that 1997 Arthur

Aaron study and in 2015 it was one of the top five most popular New York Times pieces of that

year, one of the most emailed stories in the paper's history.

Now the 36 questions are everywhere.

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