My entitled brother-in-law wakes me up from a nap, demanding that I make him dinner, stating that as long as me and my family are staying in his house temporarily, then I need to be in the kitchen just like his wife making him dinner whatever he wants. And I'm honestly blown away by this situation and I now don't know what to do. Here's what happened. Okay, so my husband, who we will call Tom, as well as our two sons, were recently in a house fire and lost our home, but luckily we were all out of the house when this happened. Tom's brother, who we will call Sean, as well as his wife, agreed to let us stay at his place with their kids while we sort out insurance. Now, I don't like Sean, as he believes in traditional gender roles in his household. We have had issues. Ever since he realized I would keep

my maiden name at work, which I informed him was none of his business, and it was my personal choice.

He works full time and his wife is a housewife. When we had our sons, Sean thought that I would

quit my job as a doctor and become a stay-at-home mom. However, Tom became a stay-at-home dad

instead, and then went back to

work after our son went to school and doesn't share the same thought process as Sean. Sean clearly

disapproves of this and me, and he vocalized his thoughts about the situation. I got Tom to speak to

Sean, and he has left us alone ever since then, but occasionally used to make comments at holidays

and birthdays about which I just completely ignore. They stopped when Tom returned to work, and since then, but occasionally used to make comments at holidays and birthdays about which I just

completely ignore. They stop when Tom returned to work, and since then, Tom says that Sean has grown

as a person. Tom and Sean are very close, and I would never tell him to stop talking to him,

but I personally interact as little as possible with Sean. My son's school and Tom's workplace is

walking distance from Sean's house,

which is why I agreed to stay, and suck it up while we get back on our feet as it is temporary. Yesterday was a very hectic day at work, and I was exhausted. My shift ended midday, and I went straight to bed. Everyone was out of the house, and Sean and Tom went to work. The kids were at school and Sean's wife went to see a friend. Well, Sean got home first and he woke me up.

Now, I was upset and still talked. and Sean and Tom went to work. The kids were at school and Sean's wife went to see a friend.

Well, Sean got home first and he woke me up. Now, I was upset and still tired, and when I asked him why, he said to me that I should start making dinner as it was getting late and his wife was out and not picking up her phone. Usually, I do the cooking in the house with his wife, but I was upset that Sean had woken me up, and I yelled at him to not disturb me. I then kicked him out of the room, and I told him I was going back to sleep and he could sort out his own dinner. When I woke up that evening, Sean told me that while I was under his house, I need to respect his house rules. I told him he could have cooked for himself, heated leftovers in the fridge, or gotten takeaway. Now Tom thinks that Sean did overstep by waking me up and making demands, but I shouldn't have yelled and escalated the situation. So honestly, at this point, I'm incredibly pissed off and frustrated, and I really don't know what to do. Before we go any further, the original poster has an update to this situation. Here's what they had to say. Okay, to start things out, I didn't expect so many responses, and I have read quite a few of them. I spoke to a friend who said that we are welcome at her place. I told my husband I was leaving with the kids, and he was welcome to join me or stay at Sean's house. My brother-in-law didn't tell my husband the whole story and said, I just flat out refused to cook and then yelled at him out of tiredness when one of the conditions on us staying was that we would cook and help out around the house.

I was upset that my husband believed Sean, but he also didn't have the full story.

In our culture, we place a big emphasis on respecting elders, and I know I feel uncomfortable opposing elder relatives on my side of the family, so I get why my husband does struggle. This experience has made me put my foot down, though, and I've told my husband I don't want our sons anywhere near him. I think this has also been an eye-opener for my husband, and he has agreed to move out with me, although my brother-in-law asked him to stay. When we get our place

sorted out, only my sister-law and my kids' cousins will be allowed over. My sister-law has called to apologize for my brother-in-law's behavior, but here's the thing. I have not heard from him at all. He was silent to me and only talked to my husband and the kids. I agreed to move in with my brother-in-law, as I believe that he had changed in his beliefs, and it had been a few years

since our last fight, but apparently not. Also, the house belonged to my husband's late parents, and he owns half of it. Also, with our insurance, they have finally ruled the fire as a faulty electrical situation in the kitchen, so we will get a place of our own by Friday. But regardless, I hope I never deal with my brother-in-law ever again, because what he did to me was absolutely uncalled for. Holy crap, that guy is such an awful person. Sean literally walked over to the original poster and said, hey, while you're in my house, you need to cook in the kitchen. Basically saying, oh yeah, women belong in the kitchen while you're under my roof. It's like, dude you doing if you want to try that crap with your wife i guess go for it even though i think it's wrong but to do that crap to somebody else's wife under the guise of oh if you're under my house you have to follow my rules like dude i don't know what you're talking about but that is not gonna happen you can't boss someone around and like take their autonomy, all because you're hungry and you want dinner. Who's going to make my dinner now?

It's like, dude, what are you talking about right now? Order a pizza. Heat up some leftovers. Cook for

yourself. Do something. Don't drag a guest in your house into this and be like, oh, if you're

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