Breaking Sexpectations: How to Overcome Shame, Speak Up for Your Needs, and Have the Orgasms You Deserve | Dr. Jolene Brighten (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

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Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 25 August 2025

⏱️ 90 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Good news ladies! If you haven’t figured it out yet, there’s sex of all kinds for us to enjoy, and it’s not all about His parts. There’s much more to sex than penetration, his pleasure, and the nonsensical pressure to perform like a porn star in the bedroom every night. This episode is dedicated to a happier, healthier sex life for the empowered badass woman that’s prioritizing her health and well-being. Depending on your background, religious beliefs, and parental tolerance for the conversation of sex, you may not realize the sex-pectations society has pushed on you or the reason your sex drive is non-existent some days. Dr. Jolene Brighton is the sex-ed doc we all wish our younger selves had (but you’ve got her now, so pay attention!) She’s the author of the book we all need to check out, Is This Normal? Judgment Free Straight Talk About Your Body. She’s a clinical sexologist helping women, a.k.a. “vulva owners” get answers to the questions they dare not say allowed or in mixed company. In this episode Lisa’s putting aside all the shame and embarrassment to get the takeaways every woman needs to hear today: Why sex drive is the top complaint women have, and all the things we do to ruin it If you didn’t have a big enough reason to practice mindfulness, having orgasm may be the best reason yet The unnecessary shame for women around pleasing their partner and having to make their own lubrication or else What Arousal Non-Concordance is and the fight between your brain and genitals Why size does actually matter (a lot) Male centric messages about sex have been screwing up our sex lives, our pleasure and our health.We’ve got a lot of messages wrong about porn, about orgasms, and about intimacy. You can start here and now with an upgraded sex-ed class that prioritizes your sexual pleasure not his! Follow Jolene Brighton: Website: ⁠https://drbrighten.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@DrJoleneBrighten⁠ Pinterest: ⁠https://www.pinterest.com/drjolenebrighten/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrighten/⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/drbrighten/ Original air date: 4-5-23 CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off ⁠https://bioptimizers.com/impact⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:45.2	What up, guys.
0:46.3	Today is such a fun episode.
0:49.4	My girl, Jolene Bryden, is the leading authority in women's health, and she's a spicy doctor, if you will,
0:56.5	where you wish you would have got sex education from her, even though sex in the city was great and taught us a lot.
1:04.6	Jolene Briden is the person to listen to.
1:07.2	She's the author of the book, Is This Normal? A judgment-free straight talk about your body.
1:12.6	And guys, this sexologist, doctor, talks about the BS pressures society puts on women to perform in the bedroom, to always be turned on and always be sexy, and why that's actually detrimental to us and our partners.
1:26.5	We also talk about what sex expectations we buy into
1:31.3	that always prioritise his pleasure over our own.
1:35.1	And we wonder why so many freaking women never experienced true orgasm.
1:40.6	Guys, it isn't easy and natural for me to talk about sex. But when I realize how damn important
1:47.2	that is to our health, to our confidence, to how we show up every day, I felt it was so important
1:54.8	to lean in and pay attention and get as much freaking knowledge as we possibly can about our
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