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Clear Intentions with Diane Boden

Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations | Jinger Duggar Vuolo (EP04)

Clear Intentions with Diane Boden

Diane Boden

Self-improvement, How To, Kids & Family, Mental Health, Education, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 952 Ratings

🗓️ 19 February 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Are you constantly seeking the approval of others, afraid to disappoint, or trapped in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? In this episode, we sit down with New York Times bestselling author Jinger Vuolo to explore the hidden costs of living for the validation of others. Raised in the public eye on a reality TV show and deeply influenced by the teachings of Bill Gothard, Jinger knows firsthand the weight of external expectations. Through her books Becoming Free Indeed and People Pleaser, she unpacks her journey of breaking free from toxic pressures and discovering true freedom. We’ll dive into the psychology behind people-pleasing, its ties to identity and faith, how to set healthy boundaries with grace...


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Jinger Duggar Vuolo grew up on TV. From the age of nine until twenty-seven, she appeared on her family's hit TLC reality shows, 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On. She is an author whose books include New York Times bestseller Becoming Free Indeed, her personal memoir The Hope We Hold and a children's book, You Can Shine So Bright. She now lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jeremy, and their two daughters, Felicity Nicole and Evangeline Jo. In her free time, Jinger enjoys traveling, hiking, and anything to do with good food


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Transcript

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0:00.0

I was raised on a reality show from the age of 10 until 27.

0:04.7

And that show ended four years ago.

0:07.3

And so it has been an interesting journey being raised in the public eye.

0:12.9

I realized how much of a people pleaser I was.

0:15.6

When I look at my temperament compared to a lot of my siblings, I am by nature a people pleaser. A lot of it will be a

0:23.8

motivation of us feeling like, okay, I want everybody to be happy with me all the time. So they think,

0:29.7

well, me, why are you doing that? What is your motivation? And so I think that's what all comes

0:33.4

back down to is like motivation and why do we do what we do. It is so easy to just say yes

0:39.9

to everything to keep everybody happy all the time and that can be a big downfall. You can't actually

0:45.2

have a genuine relationship with somebody if you're not talking about any issues at all.

0:49.2

If I'm allowing my thoughts to just run wherever they want to go. That's where I'm going to have issues.

0:55.1

How can I love and serve this person from a place where I'm not seeking to gain anything

0:59.8

from them? I'm not trying to drain them dry of everything that they are to gain something

1:04.0

that I feel like I need from them, to be satisfied. We walk into a room of strangers and we

1:09.4

immediately think, wow, are they all going to reject me?

1:12.7

Who do I need to be for them?

1:14.9

Are you constantly seeking the approval of others?

1:18.1

Afraid to disappoint or trapped in the exhausting cycle of people pleasing?

1:23.0

In this episode, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author Ginger Dugger Vuelo to explore

1:29.8

the hidden costs of living for the validation of others. Raised in the public eye on a reality

1:35.2

TV show and deeply influenced by the teachings of Bill Gothard, Ginger knows firsthand the weight

1:41.0

of external expectations. Through her books becoming free indeed, and now her

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