Breaking Down Toxic vs. Conscious Relationships | Jay Shetty EP 898

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 21 February 2025

⏱️ 6 minutes

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"Toxic love is when your trauma is the oxygen for your relationship... whereas a conscious relationship is saying that I have these things, I'm trying to heal them, I'm going to make my partner aware of what I'm healing because I'm not fully healed." - Jay Shetty Jay Shetty dismantles the common misconceptions about conscious love, revealing that it's not about being perfectly healed or selflessly giving more than your partner. Instead, he explains how conscious relationships thrive on clear agreements, healthy boundaries, and open communication about personal growth journeys. His refreshing perspective challenges the competitive nature of toxic relationships, where partners keep score and use vulnerability as ammunition during arguments. Drawing from real-life examples, Shetty illustrates how supporting a partner through their healing journey can transform a potentially toxic situation into a conscious relationship. He emphasizes that the key difference lies in how partners handle each other's vulnerabilities and traumas - whether they use them as weapons or create a safe space for growth and healing together. Through his practical framework of relationship rules, he encourages couples to create their own principles for building a foundation of mutual understanding and support.

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0:47.9	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes.
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1:05.0	Music Welcome to the Daily Motivation Show. I'm curious, what is the difference between toxic love and conscious love? Toxic love is where both people are working independently to use the relationship to serve their own needs.
1:15.4	That's toxic love. And conscious love is where both people independently take care of themselves
1:22.9	so they can bring their best self to each other. And where this often goes wrong is that toxic love turns into a competition.
1:33.3	Toxic love now is who's doing more for each other, who gives more love to each other,
1:39.3	who does more work around the house.
1:42.3	You turn the whole thing into a competition, which is not teamwork.
1:47.8	And conscious love is not saying you're the selfless one, it's you're making agreements.
1:52.3	I think that's the mistake that love was constantly, conscious love was always like,
1:56.8	be selfless, love more than the other person, give more.
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