So Bob I have some emails for you and I to answer from the patrons. They have asked questions and they will say sometimes,

this question is for you and Bob. So let's answer those questions. What do you say Bob?

Let's answer those questions. What do you say Bob? Let's answer those questions.

This is the Psychology and Seattle podcast.

I've never said it like that.

Psychology and Seattle podcast.

I'm your host, you sing it like that, Dr. Kirk Honda and I am a licensed therapist and a

professor.

I am Bob Gettle, I'm a therapist in practice here in Seattle, though this week not in Seattle, out of town.

And I see couples and I see individuals and I teach DBT skills and I'm your friend from graduate school.

All right, this is anonymous patron. This person says, this is for you and Bob I'm not sure if you have

done an episode on transference focused psychotherapy but my therapist recently

discovered this and things that could help us.

I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and my therapist recently expressed

frustration that every time we have a session it's like starting over as if we have never spoken before in our

lives even though we have been working together twice a week for several years.

So just chiming in here I'm taking a guess that what's happening here is this

person who says they have borderline. They're going to their therapist. And this session

frequently starts out with the client maybe being quiet or upset about something involving the relationship with the therapist.

And the therapist spends a lot of time in this session trying to

reassure the client that no I do care and the things that are in your mind are

distortions and it's not you know it has to do with your traumas being

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