This therapy that I've been doing, I think I talked to you guys about it, but it's unlike therapy I have done before.

It is all about self, like getting in touch with self and separating self from your feelings, separating self from the pieces inside of you.

And inside of you that are there playing roles, doing work that they believe to be the responsibility of them as parts inside of your being.

And it was described when I was first trying to find this person in the midst of this transition.

Self is the sun. So you're the sun, yourself, who you are inside. And your parts are clouds.

Sometimes when you lose yourself, you forget that the sun exists because of how many parts, how many clouds, how many emotions, how many feelings, how many coping mechanisms exist in a way that has blocked out the sun or you're really to see the sun.

So the work that I've been doing, it's part of why I love that book Untethered Soul, is getting to know the parts that exist inside of me so that I can create a relationship with them in a way that affords me an opportunity to ask what role they believe they are playing and why they're here.

So that I don't mistake myself for being the voice in my head that I as self am an observer of that voice. I don't mistake myself for being a feeling like anxiety that I am a witness to this feeling anxiety who is playing a role in my life.

And I've talked about this before, I'm just going to say it again when anxiety shows up and guess what? Sometimes it shows up at two o'clock in the morning when I am trying to sleep in my head, it starts to think all the thoughts.

The thing I have to think at two thirty in the morning or frankly anytime I'm feeling any emotion because of this work I'm doing with self is what role anxiety do you have in having presented yourself here as a cloud trying to block out the sun.

Anxiety for me, it turns out, usually shows up when I have not created clarity around a part of my life that needs a plan.

And so I have reframed my appreciation through the work that I'm doing with the person I'm buying a boat for for the value that an emotion like anxiety can play in my life

because of its presence signaling to me its information, its just data, it is giving me the sign that I need to do some work on a part of my life that currently does not have enough clarity or the depth of a plan that is necessary for me to be as successful as I'd like to be in getting to where I'm going.

Thank you, anxiety for showing on up, I appreciate that and you can substitute anxiety for fear, for anger, for a whole host of things.

I had this amazing conversation with Jay Shetty on the Rise Together podcast that came out last Thursday, two Thursdays ago, anyway, we were talking about fear and the role that fear plays in our lives.

And I just had such an epiphany in just sitting and having this conversation with them.

We were talking about the idea of struggle and the idea that so many of us choose to stay in struggle that we know because of the fear of what it might mean to pursue something new.

Or that in some ways there is comfort in the familiar, even if that comfort is killing us, even if that comfort is coming at the expense of us being who we were put on this planet for, we are more comfortable staying in struggle that we know than moving towards something new.

So fear, such a good insight, fear actually is trying to act as a catalyst to move you into something uncomfortable so that you can leave the struggle that you are clinging to because of it being so familiar for the opportunity that will come in something new.

Wow, okay, don't tell me I'm going to create some gratitude around fear now for acting as this positive catalyst and pushing me into a new place that even though it's unfamiliar, maybe in fact the remedy that I've been looking for for the kind of fulfillment that I'm interested in.

Or maybe the kind of thing that's necessary for me to actually get to this vision of who I'm becoming.

And so I'm telling you when you get into this space where you can separate yourself from the feelings that you have, when you can remind yourself that the sun exists, that you are like, you know, I started this conversation honestly because my identity had been so connected to being a husband.

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