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🗓️ 29 November 2023
⏱️ 72 minutes
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Are blended family conflicts unavoidable? Naja Hall joins Laterras to offer hope in the storm. After detailing how she fell in love fast with a divorced dad of three, Naja unpacks the mental health impacts and anxiety triggering events stemming from high conflict with her husband's ex. From boundary setting tips to a revelatory distinction between child-centered marriages and divorces, Naja provides vulnerable testimony and hard-won wisdom so others might walk an easier path. Ultimately Naja issues a gentle challenge—can we break cycles of generational trauma and instead choose generational healing? The possibility of blossoming in the ashes exists, but we must commit to do the work.
[00:00 - 07:37] - The challenges and importance of amicable co-parenting
[07:37 - 15:22] - How Naja and her husband met
[15:22 - 20:18] - Early relationship challenges around blended family dynamics
[20:18 - 34:00] - An incident revealing the severity of conflicts
[34:00 - 37:09] - Coping with anxiety from conflict
[37:09 - 41:23] - Establishing personal boundaries
[41:23 - 50:31] - Perspectives on causes of conflict
[50:31 - 01:03:29] - Tips for mitigating blended family conflicts
[01:03:29 - 01:10:20] - Final Thoughts & Wrap Up
Key Quote:
"I've seen 0% of child centered marriages work. I've seen 100% of child centered divorce divorces work." - Naja Hall
Connect with Naja:
Naja Hall IG - https://www.instagram.com/thenajahall/
Blended and Black - https://www.blendedandblack.com/
VIP Stepmom - https://www.vipstepmom.com/
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0:00.0 | These kids should be able to have a parent that can, they can, both their parents are in their |
0:04.3 | graduation photos and maybe one day wedding photos. |
0:07.7 | I could never imagine my parents being at such odds that they couldn't put their love |
0:12.3 | for me at the center, that they couldn't put their love for me at the center, |
0:13.7 | that they couldn't say, all right, let's just put this crap behind us. |
0:16.1 | So child-centered divorces work, because that means these children are going to know that I am the most important |
0:21.9 | thing to my parents. My parents were able to |
0:24.8 | heal and do what they needed to do for me. And so now they're taking that in and saying, |
0:29.6 | I'm going to be able to do that. I see what healing looks like. I see mama living well. I see daddy |
0:34.0 | living well. I see them both happy. That's the thing that we're passing it down. We say we pass down |
0:38.2 | generational trauma. What about generational healing? |
0:41.6 | Love is a treasure chest, but once opened, our hearts become vulnerable. |
0:46.0 | I went back to Vegas. |
0:48.0 | It was this guy. |
0:50.0 | He appeared as a friend. |
0:51.0 | Sure enough, it led to infinitely. |
0:53.6 | A line that can't be ignored. |
0:55.6 | We talked about certain topics as far as having kids. |
0:58.2 | She didn't want to have kids. |
0:59.7 | And that was one of the red flags. And I know you desire marriage. |
1:05.0 | So I think it's best you move on with your life. |
1:10.0 | Hold on Lisa, what you do? |
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