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All right, so I have heard through the grapevine that a girl of a friend of mine is doing something that I think is really kind of dangerous.

I understand why she's doing it because of past history, but I think she is putting herself and she is putting the dudes that she is going out with in danger.

Okay.

So she has a history, an odd history of dating guys that have an aggressive behavior.

Like not violence necessarily, just jealous, toxic, possessive dudes.

Okay.

And she can't really understand why it's happening,

but it's happening so often that it is sort of, for whatever reason, her type.

Now, you don't know this when you go into the relationship,

but she finds out, and all of them have like the same thing in common where they are just overly protective, aggressive, and jealous.

And it has gotten to a point and it's gotten so serious in some of these relationships that she is really gun shy, that she just doesn't have the right antenna to be able to identify it anymore.

So her way of handling it now is on a first or second date when she's out with the dude.

She will purposely flirt with other guys to see what his reaction is going to be to the guy and to her while they are out.

That doesn't see.

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