if you have a kink or a fetish, that isn't something that you need to share with everyone in your

sex life. Like there will be some people who might be into it as well and other people who might not be,

but are like, hey, I'm so supportive of the fact you love this thing. Like, you have my full support.

If I can help in any way, let me know. But this isn't going to be like a major thing for me. And I kind of want people to know that that's allowed a bit more.

It doesn't mean that you're weird if like someone isn't into something that you're into.

Welcome to doing it with me, Hannah Witten, where we talk all things, sex, relationships, dating and our bodies.

Hi, welcome back to doing it. Today's guest is someone I've had on the podcast before, but she's just so brilliant and her new book is out.

She is now an author.

So I just had to get her back on so we could celebrate and chat all about it.

My guest today is of course the wonderful Ruby Rare.

Ruby is a queer, non-monogamous sex educator.

She's worked with many, many young people through the sexual health charity Brooke,

who we are both ambassadors of.

And she's now mostly working on sex ed for adults and has been doing many talks on things

like porn, sex toys, ethical non-monogamy and how to be a slut. Ruby also runs

the body positive clothes optional life during event, Body Love Sketch Club with her friend Rosie.

And we talk a bit about that and Ruby's love for being nude in the episode. We talk about Ruby's new book, Sex Ed, a Guide for

Adults, writing it in lockdown and trying to remember how you finger someone. We talked about

queerness and the difficulties that can bring with sex and relationships, but also the

potential freedom in being able to write your own rules when it comes to the sex you have

and relationship structures. We answered a bunch of your questions about blow jobs, consent and

kissing, delayed ejaculation and queer sex. And of course, I had to ask Ruby about her jelly

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