Become a Better Friend to Yourself

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 30 March 2020

⏱️ 53 minutes

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It's often easier to be a good friend to others than to ourselves. Today we're exploring how to balance constructive and harmful self-criticism, move away from our "act," embrace change, manage feelings of worthlessness, and ultimately be a good friend to ourselves. New Sponsor: Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Key Topics: 3:15: A few ways to be kind to yourself. 8:15: Finding your key resources. 12:50: Useful vs. harmful self-criticism. 15:00: Putting your past in perspective. 20:15: Moving away from the “act.” 23:00: Finding optimal distance. 28:00: Ways to tune into your own goodness. 34:00: What to do when you don’t feel like a good person. 43:00: Narcissism vs. authentic feelings of goodness. 46:00: Relating to the self as something that can change. 50:00: Ego ideal From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Hardwire lasting change into your mind and heart in just a few minutes a day with Dr. Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price! Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey everyone. Welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hansen and I'm really
0:06.9	looking forward to talking about what we're going to be exploring today. On this
0:11.4	podcast we've spent a lot of time talking about how to develop
0:14.6	interpersonal resources of various kinds, different ways of being with others in the
0:20.4	world. And it's true that that's really essential and really important. A lot of our lives
0:25.8	boil down to the time that we spend with other people and how positively or negatively those
0:31.5	interactions go.
0:33.0	But the truth is that there's only one person
0:35.0	that you're going to be spending every minute of every day
0:38.0	for the rest of your life with.
0:40.0	And that's yourself.
0:41.0	So on this episode, I wanted to explore the sweet and important territory of how to become a better friend to yourself and how to develop as good a relationship as possible with the various characters that inhabit
0:55.3	your mind.
0:56.3	So to help us do that, I'm joined today as usual by Dr. Rick Hansen.
0:59.8	So Dad, how are you doing?
1:01.0	I'm good and this topic's personally meaningful to me
1:04.6	because when I was younger, including into adulthood
1:10.8	in midlife even, I had underlying feelings of inadequacy, low worth, kind of a harsh
1:20.0	driving attitude toward myself, you know, like I was just like my being was a horse that I was the rider of
1:27.3	driving it all the time every day. Yeah. So this topic is personally important to me. Yeah, now I feel extremely the same way.
1:34.0	I think that a lot of people have very much
1:36.0	that kind of relationship with themselves.
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