What up my homies, welcome back to part 2 with the incredible Leyla Hamosi. Now, yesterday we got clear on why you keep abandoning yourself the second things get hard. Why? You don't feel confident even when you try to work on it and you don't feel good about yourself even though you feel like you're doing everything you need to. But today, we're getting into the moments that hurt the freaking most. The moments where confidence isn't built in theory, it's actually built in real life because this is where the work actually happens. When an old insecurity gets hit and you feel yourself shrinking, when that shame fricking knocks you from a zero to a negative five, when that one tiny mistake makes you want to hide a apologise that just freaking give up completely, while Layla's brutally honest truth about how she handles those moments, it's not about perfection, it's about being powerful. So today, on part 2 we break down how to stay grounded when someone pokes you in your biggest insecurities so you don't collapse into the old you. We also talk about how to stop one slip up from spiraling your confidence so you can keep going instead of giving up on yourself. Ladies, this is a journey. It isn't a one and done, and so this is going to be consistent as you need to keep showing up, and you need to keep listening to a woman of empath and we need to bond together to know that just one mistake doesn't define you. And finally we talk about the emotional, freaking mastery move that keeps you steady when everyone and everything is spiraling out of control. Now this one is so important because the highest lady I'm going to self get important that you can train yourself to respond with self respect instead of self doubt. It's those moments you can't control everyone else but you better bloody believe you can control yourself. So the question is how the hell are you going to show up? Now, if you've ever wanted to change,

but genuinely didn't believe that you actually could,

I don't even think I have this in me to handle this. Ladies, ladies, this is part of the conversation that you've been waiting for. So don't give up, put on your can-do cap, and there's freaking dive into part two with my girl, Leyla Hamosi, right here with minimum impact.

All right, so then we're gonna go move to number three,

is choose this comfort over self abandonment.

I think you addressed that earlier.

Number four, speak truthfully without emotionally vomiting. Something that I think about a lot is, okay, um, I want to be honest with people, but I don't need to tell them it's almost like using discretion. I don't need to emotionally bomb it all over people

about how I'm feeling about this thing at this point in time, because that doesn't help me respect myself more anyways. And so I look at it as just like state the facts and tell the truth. Like oftentimes people overcompensate when they're working through something, so they'll overexplain, they'll overcompensate, they'll overemotion, versus just like state the facts of the truth.

I can't do that because I've decided

that I don't do that anymore. So they'll over-explain, they'll overcompensate, they'll over-emotion, versus just like state the facts of the truth.

I can't do that because I've decided that I don't do that anymore. I can't go to dinner with you because I've decided that I don't go out and drink like that anymore. I can't do this because it's just like a sentence. And something that I see with a lot of people when they're trying to gain self-respect that they over-engineer, over-explain, overthink, and overcompensate for this thing that is

actually not very complicated at all. people when they're trying to gain self-respect is that they over-engineer, over-explain, overthink,

and overcompensate for this thing that is actually not very complicated at all.

And in doing that, they actually lose respect for themselves because they show up like this

like insecure, not respecting yourself rather than just like, you don't need to explain

anything more.

You can just say it.

In fact, you can just do things because you want to do things.

You can say things because you want to say it. In fact, you can just do things because you want to do things. You can say things because you want to say things. And you don't owe people an explanation. You know, I tell people, I'm like, you need to be okay, not over explaining and not emotionally vomiting on people, all the things that you feel because you've said no right now, because that also doesn't help them respect you more. That is not getting us towards the goal. And so some it's like learning that the easy way is actually the more simple way, which is just like state-th facts sounds true, and move on.

And the script... that is not getting us towards the goal. And so some of it's like learning that the easy way

is actually the more simple way,

which is just like, state the facts on the truth,

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