Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring

relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and

stay on the same team no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman.

And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's.

And this episode is about being responsible for your reactions with these three strategies.

And this topic came from a theme that we noticed in last week's sessions.

It feels like in one week, a lot of the couples will be going through very similar patterns,

like something's happening cosmically.

And I kept saying this to a couple.

And Aaron had some great mic drops as well in the sessions,

because we really, we challenge our couples, right? We get in there and we're like calling them out

on this and that. But I said this to them and it really hit home. The ultimate sign of a secure

marriage is knowing that even if one of you says something at the wrong time, in the wrong way,

or with the wrong tone, the other person will be responsible for their reaction. And everyone

like nodded their head and they were like, yes, that's our goal. Because what can happen so often

is that you'll just get caught in these loops

where you're pointing the finger at each other and saying things like, well, I wouldn't do this.

If you didn't do this. If you said it at a better time, then I wouldn't have this reaction.

If you said it in a different way, then I would respond differently. And you'll just stay trapped

if you're constantly pointing the finger at the other person

rather than you hear us talk a lot about personal responsibility.

Aaron, I see you smiling, so you want to say something.

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