You want what's best for your child and sometimes that means you discipline your son or daughter,

but how do you balance being firm in that discipline and also reassuring your child that you still love them.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny

who heads up our parenting team here at the ministry.

And Danny, there's no one size fits all there are different approaches but I've heard you speak in terms of some general principles

that you employed with your own children especially when they were younger

what were one or two principles did she use? with your own children, especially when they were younger.

What were one or two principles that she used?

Yeah, we definitely used timeouts when it made sense

at an earlier age to help them stop and learn to think about what has happened and then we'd come back and talk about those.

We used a family celebration as well to have goals in place and as we did that we celebrated times when we did behaviors well and we also

did the losing of privileges and I remember this one time John it was it was an

interesting moment where my son grabbed his toy and just whacked Lexi with this toy.

And we had already corrected that behavior, taking the toy away, and it clearly wasn't

working with this one particular toy

had become so important to him.

If she touched it, boom, he'd hit.

So I had to remove it and I said, son, if I need to,

I'll throw this away because I really want your heart to learn how to love people and he just

looked at me with his eyes wide off and it is a great moment for us to connect.

He's going, no daddy, you know dad. I said I'm going to put it away for a couple

days. We'll try one more time and I want you to know that that's what's going to happen.

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