Bad Self-Disclosure, Emasculating Mom, and Bob Going Deep
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 14 April 2023
⏱️ 40 minutes
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April 14, 2023
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob, you came over, you sat down and we talked about some interesting topics we did that we |
| 0:06.4 | can't really share on the podcast. But while the microphones are on and we're recording, let's actually |
| 0:12.9 | talk about things that we can talk about on the podcast and answer some emails. What do you say? |
| 0:17.5 | Yeah, sure. So this first email, it's a bit of a long one about I think it's a good one. |
| 0:21.5 | Anonymous patron. And just as a caveat or an introduction, this email highlights very well. |
| 0:28.1 | The pitfalls of oversharing from a therapist, of having too much self-disclosure. |
| 0:35.8 | I'm often on my soapbox saying, hey, self-disclosure, it is a science-based method of improving outcomes |
| 0:43.2 | in therapy. It's been shown time and time again. There's a lot of weird dogma that you'll hear even |
| 0:49.9 | from professors that you're never supposed to self-disclose. That is not the standard of practice. |
| 0:54.8 | That's not the history of our, that doesn't reflect the history of our field. |
| 0:58.9 | If you don't want a self-disclose, it's totally fine. There are pitfalls to it, which we could go over |
| 1:04.7 | and we will in this bit. But to just blank at least say, never self-disclose. And then also, |
| 1:10.5 | you'll have a lot of novice therapists who just somehow picked up on this notion that they |
| 1:14.8 | should never self-disclose. And so I'm often on the pro-self-disclosure side of things. Not because |
| 1:21.0 | you should just self-disclose, but it can be very powerful to a client to strategically |
| 1:27.2 | self-disclose. They are single and they're lonely and they're having a hard time wondering if |
| 1:36.0 | they'll ever find someone that will be compatible with them, that will love them. And you just drop |
| 1:40.7 | in a little self-disclosures like, yeah, when I was younger, I felt very similar. And I know how |
| 1:47.1 | that feels. It's very demoralizing, but I kept at it and I just sort of acted as if I would meet |
| 1:54.1 | my person and I eventually did. I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not saying it's going to happen to you, |
| 1:58.4 | but yeah, I've been in the depths of that demoralization. I get it. That's all you say. You don't go into |
| 2:06.3 | the details and that can make a client feel like, okay, well, if my therapist had this feeling, |
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