I am Sarah-Jane Case and this is Anya Graham and Coffee.

Hello friends welcome back to the podcast. Happy Wednesday. You know I've been thinking a lot

about asking for help and I'm actually even trying to practice it right now myself.

And last night I asked my husband like I think I just need some help. I need help getting some time

for myself this evening and he did the dishes he cooked dinner and he made lunch. Normally we split

those tasks up where like whoever cooks dinner also makes kiddos lunch and then whoever washes

dishes preps coffee and we like split those up. Last night he did like three of out of the four

of those things which gave me time to shower kind of do skincare do like a luxurious like lotion

routine and it just made me feel so loved and so supported and I was really burned out yesterday.

Like I was so stressed and I was very nervous to ask for help for some reason and

then the amount of relief just from like those extra a couple of hours really like an extra

hour I mean well worth it you know and it's like so easy to do that for a partner but so hard

sometimes to ask for that in return and I also noticed last night another need that he met like

I don't know if you guys experience this where there are things where you just kind of do things

differently and it frustrates me so like sometimes like my husband will do something and it'll

frustrate me the way he does it even though it's kind of a neutral activity and you know vice

for I'm sure vice versa but like one of the things he does is like when he cooks he'll throw

the like vegetable scraps or like the fruit scraps into the sink with the intention of

cleaning them out later you know just like taking them out but he just like puts them all there

and then we'll like transfer them to the compost but the problem is that he'll like forget he did

that then I'll go to wash dishes and for whatever reason it just really yikes me out um it just

really gresses me out like the act of scooping out fruit and veg and then I get really stressed about

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