This is Hidden Killers Live with Tony Brewski and Robin Drey.

How does a person lose themselves so slowly that they don't really notice until they're gone?

Osayah was married to Rex Sherman for 27 years and says she never saw who prosecutors allege he really was.

Eric Richens in the Corey Richens story, she's being sentenced as we speak, saw it completely.

He told his family, his wife, would be responsible if anything ever happened to him and still couldn't leave.

Two people, opposite experiences, same result.

They stay.

The psychology behind that is something every person in a relationship needs to understand because it doesn't start with a

killer. It starts with a small compromise. You barely notice. Shabon Scott, psychotherapist and author

is with us to help break it all down. Shavon explored that exact erosion in her substack spotlight on psychology. And now she's here to

break it down for us. Let's start with the version most people think they'll never fall for the slow kind.

The kind where nothing dramatic happens. No black eyes, no screaming. Just years of small adjustments

until one day you don't recognize yourself anymore.

Let's walk through how that actually works because I think a lot of women and men are living right now in situations like this.

And, you know, they don't necessarily have a name for it.

And they have, more importantly, a lot of excuses for it because they don't want to face the

reality of what might actually be in front of them. Yeah, it definitely happens incrementally,

a little bit at a time. And then there's this kind of splitting where they tell themselves

during the good times, well, this is who this person really is.

And the bad times, I'll hear people say, well, he's just going through job stress right now.

Well, he's been going through that job stress for 25 years, you know.

So let's be realistic.

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