Are You In Control Of Your Mood?

Love Over Addiction

Michelle Anderson

Society & Culture, Wifeofanalcoholic, Codependency, Relationships, Recovery, Alanon

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 14 February 2021

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

When you love someone suffering from addiction, you've maybe wondered: why am I not good enough for them to get sober? Or thinking that if your partner would just get sober, you'd finally be able to feel happy again. This can then start a downward spiral with how you're feeling.

But the loving truth is that basing your mood on how others are feeling (or what they're doing) is not healthy.

So how do you make sure that regardless of things going wrong around you, they don't affect how you feel?

Tune in this week to hear why it's important to be in control of your mood, along with some helpful (and actionable) tips that I share.

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https://loveoveraddiction.com/control-your-mood/

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast.
0:04.5	Hello, hello. How are you guys doing? I'm okay. I've got a little bit of a migraine today,
0:25.3	which always comes with this time of the month. That's probably TMI for you guys,
0:33.1	but just being real, I'm in my backyard. You can hear the birds. So here's the deal. Maybe it's
0:41.9	because it is that time of the month. Maybe it's because I've got a gazillion kids. Maybe it's because
0:49.5	of the COVID and the world we live in today, but I'm tired. I'm worn down. I feel a little exhausted,
0:55.9	a little empty. I feel anxious, which I don't usually struggle with, and just out of sorts, right?
1:07.6	So, you know how I always talk about how loving someone that suffers with addiction can be a
1:12.8	really good thing for us? This is the day. It's these types of days where I absolutely believe that
1:21.3	to be true 100% because I look back on when I loved a great man with tons of potential
1:32.4	who was charming and smart and athletic and had it all. I mean, just the whole package
1:41.1	and how addiction just took him down and ruined him and destroyed him. And I don't know where
1:50.3	the man that I fell in love with went, but there is a shell of a person left and I don't know
1:58.3	that person anymore. It's been many, many, many years, but the bottom line is is that
2:08.7	when I was in love with him and we were married, I, for some reason, and I don't know if it was
2:16.7	because I grew up thinking this way or whether addiction kind of morphed my feelings this way,
2:24.7	but I somehow believed that if he was having a bad day, I, I was having a bad day. If he was happy,
2:35.1	I could be happy. Like, I based my entire mood of my day on his mood. And I could be having a
2:45.1	great day. And then all of a sudden, like, he would call and say he was going to be late, you know,
2:51.2	coming home, which I know is code for I'm going out drinking. And my day would be completely ruined.
2:58.0	Like that good day up to that point was just ruined. And now I was like, oh my gosh, he's not
3:06.2	coming home. I know he's lying to me. I know what he's really doing. He doesn't want to spend time
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