Am I the jerk for being truthful and admitting that I find my wife unattractive after her surgery?

This was originally posted on the 9th of March 24.

My wife had plastic surgery recently. We discussed it and I was against it.

It wasn't my decision and ultimately though I had no say.

She looks weird now. She had the fat sucked out of her face, lip fillers, a necklift,

other stuff I don't really get. She gives me uncanny valley vibes now. It freaks me out. She's fully

healed now and she wants us to go back to normal, like me initiating sex. I have done so, but not as

much as I used to. And when I do, I try and make sure

there's very little light. It's been a few months and I kind of dread having to look at her.

Obviously, she's noticed. She's been bugging me to tell her what's up. I've tried telling her I'm just

tired from work or that I'm run down. Really anything except for the truth. She broke down and asked me

if I was having an affair. I said that I wasn't. She asked to look at my phone. I unlocked it for her

and handed it over. I wasn't worried about her finding anything because there's nothing to find.

She spent an hour looking through it and found nothing. She asked me to explain why I changed.

I tried explaining that I just wasn't that interested right now. Nothing I said was good enough for her.

So she kept digging. I finally told her the truth. I wasn't harsh or brutally honest. I just told her that her new face wasn't something I found attractive and that I was turned off.

She asked if that's why I turn off all the lights now and I said yes. She started crying and said that

she needed time alone. She went to stay with her sister. I've been called every name in the book since

this happened. Her sister said I'm a piece of trash for insulting my wife's looks.

Her friends all think I'm the jerk. I tried not to say anything. I can't force myself to find

her attractive. I still love her but her face is just weird now. She looks like the blue

alien from the fifth element. Now I have no idea what the blue alien from the fifth element is. So here's a

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