This is Dating While Gray, the grownups guide to love, sex, and relationships.

I'm Laura Stasi.

On today's episode, advice from a sex journalist.

Michael Castleman has spent almost 50 years covering sexuality, sex research, and sex therapy.

His blog for psychology today has received more than 50 million views, and he's the author of several books, including sizzling sex for life, everything you need to know to maximize erotic pleasure at any age. Great title, don't you think?

I interviewed Michael in 2021 for the Dating While Gray episode Sex Education. There was so much

more to cover that Michael graciously agreed to continue our conversation

at a Facebook live event. Today we're bringing you excerpts of our talk and heads up, our conversation

is about sex, so it gets explicit. You may want to be aware of who's listening with you.

So you write about sex for people of all ages, and I love that as your career has grown,

you've aged along with your career.

And so I'm wondering what the biggest surprise has been for you about sex when you're in your

20s and 30s versus sex when you're 50 year older?

I think the biggest surprise is that sex can get better as you get older.

The myth is, particularly among young people, is that sex is for the young,

and that at a certain point you're just too old for it, and you retire from sex like you retire

with a gold watch from your job. Well, that's all true if you substitute the word reproduction for sex.

Reproduction is for the young.

Yeah.

But sex is for everybody.

And sexual pleasure, erotic pleasure, is never fades.

In fact, sex is really, when you're young, you think sex is about joining genitals.

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