This audio is brought to you by Muslimcentral.com. Sometimes in a relationship, especially in marriages, your spouse knows exactly what you've done. They have all the evidence piled up. And what happens? They then ask you, where were you last night? That's just the beginning of a huge thing, you know? I was at the boxing. Oh, were you at the boxing? Wow. Which box? Are you sure you weren't somewhere else? Are you really sure? Now something is starting to go do-dum, do-dum, do-dum, your heart is now racing, right? They know everything. They know the whole lot. And then you're not telling them. But if you come up and said, you know what, I made a mistake, I actually was not where I said I was going to be and so on and so forth. The problem is we are humans, we are not Allah. They still might not forgive you, depending on where you were and what you did. But a bigger problem is when they prove that you're trying your best to cover everything. Then they show you one piece of evidence. Okay, what's this all about? Oh, she knows where I was or he knows where I was and then they say who were you with and then they

present another piece of evidence so they pulled you and pulled you and you kept on lying you

only gave in when you were totally proven that you were right why did you do that I tell you either

you did it because you're an evil person or because you're so much concerned about this lovely relationship that the dirty relationship you want to cover it. So you really don't want them to know because they're not going to forgive you. But I don't know what's in your mind at that particular time. You must be saying, oh, Allah, forgive me. Oh, Allah, forgive me. What I did was wrong. Are you saying, I hope she doesn't't know I hope she doesn't find out oh Allah oh Allah cover her eyes so she can't

see oh Allah let her forget oh Allah let her this and let come on which duas are

you making now imagine Allah in this whole picture who is Allah and where does he

fit in the truth is we should be ashamed of Allah before anyone else. We should be worried about our relationship with Allah before anyone else. Why should I really be concerned about human beings before Allah? It's supposed to be Allah before the human beings. If I was concerned about Allah, I wouldn't have done this in the first place.

And if I did, it would have stopped immediately even before I was caught.

I know as a counselor of people who've had affairs for four years, five years, never caught by the spouse.

They left that and they quit for the sake of Allah and they became better people with the spouse, never ever anything and 20 years down the line the guy says you know I have something to tell you

so silly my brother you didn't need to say to a human being 15 years ago I had a little affair

and I immediately recognized it was wrong and so I turned to Allah and I started praying five times

a day as a result of that.

And I said, what? I want a divorce.

But you lived with me for 15 years after? I don't care.

Human beings are very different from Allah.

Allah is the creator. He's prepared to forgive again and again and again.

You and I are not.

So as much as we are concerned about each other and rightly so, be more concerned about Allah.