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You need to forgive in order to attain forgiveness and people mix forgiveness at times by thinking that by forgiving

I need to go back to how I was before this person wronged me and that's not a condition of forgiveness.

I forgave them. I don't hold a grudge against them, but I don't want to have much to do with them because I've been bitten quite badly

and I haven't forgotten it.

So in Islam we were encouraged to forgive.

Never does it say forget about it.

We can't forget we are human beings. We have been hurt.

The gash is like an open wound that we are going to see for the rest of our lives sometimes.

So I may not hold a grudge and I may have forgiven completely, but I don't want to have anything to do with such people.

Nothing wrong with that statement.

May Allah bless you.

And perhaps if you were to see them asalamu alaykum wa alaykum as-salam is a duty.

That's it. More than that is not your duty.

If you feel safe and secure and you feel like, okay, we want to try and make things work again, you might try, but the Hadith says,

la yul derul mumminumin juherin wa haidin marratain.

A true belief is never bitten from the same whole twice.

Remember that.

So if you feel that perhaps things haven't changed, although I've forgiven this person or these people,

and I don't hold a grudge against them, but I don't want to mix with them because I don't think anything has changed in reality.

You are justified in that type of thinking.

May Allah SWT grant us forgiveness and help us to forgive others.

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