So yeah, so is there an exercise you you want us to go through?

Sure, sure. So what I would say for anybody listening is I want you to just bring to your mind an event that's happened recently.

You could choose a very painful event or you could just choose a small, you know, not so significant

event. And I want you to think about what would happen if you just got news that your dear friend or partner or family member was going through something exactly the same.

So they called you or they came to you and they said, I went, I've been going through this one thing

and let's, we use OCD as an example. So if if your loved one came to you and said I'm

wanted you to know I'm really struggling with O. C. D. And it's incredibly painful and

I'm exhausted and I'm alone and I'm tormented by these thoughts and feelings and compulsions.

I want you to just take a moment and ask yourself what might you say to them? How might you respond to them verbally?

Because they've shared you this with you could

this very intimate vulnerable information.

So you could write this down.

I encourage my patients and in the book

for people to write this sound.

So you could pause this episode right now and sit down. Just reflect on what might you say. And then once you've

identified what you would say, I want you to understand that self-compassion isn't just words, right? I want you to think about how might your body language change towards the person once they've told you this information?

Did you lean in?

Did your shoulders soften? You know, did you, you know, did your eyes soften? Did you, you know, how did your

body language change? Maybe when they started telling you you were busy and doing something, but as soon as you got know that they're going through something hard, maybe you stopped and looked them in the eye and acknowledge them physically.

So quickly just check in and maybe write down again.

What did your body do when they shared that information of suffering with you.

And then once you've done that, I want you to think about your tone of voice,

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