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The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

A New Approach to OCD: Internal Family Systems w/ Melissa Mose

The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

Robert Duff, Ph.D.

Health & Fitness, Robertduff, Education, Duffthepsych, Mental Health, Psychology, Selfhelp, Advice, Drduff

4.6 โ€ข 1K Ratings

๐Ÿ—“๏ธ 10 November 2025

โฑ๏ธ 77 minutes

๐Ÿงพ๏ธ Download transcript

Summary

In this deeply informative episode, I'm joined by licensed marriage and family therapistย Melissa Mose, LMFT, who brings 30 years of clinical experience to the table and a unique approach to treating OCD by integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) with traditional methods like Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP).

Melissa shares how a personal experienceโ€”her daughter's sudden-onset OCDโ€”propelled her into the world of OCD treatment and changed the direction of her career. We talk through how OCD manifests, why traditional ERP can be both life-changing and difficult for people, and how IFS can offer a more compassionate, effective way to approach healing by helping clients access their internal "Self."

We also discuss Melissa's new book for clinicians, her training work, and the upcoming OCD SoCal Conference happening online on November 15โ€“16, 2025.


๐Ÿง  What We Discuss in This Episode:

  • Melissa's unexpected path from literature and mythology to psychotherapy

  • The sudden-onset OCD experience with her daughter that changed everything

  • What OCD really is โ€“ beyond stereotypes โ€“ and why it's often misunderstood

  • Core concepts of ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention)

  • How Internal Family Systems (IFS) works and its 8 C's of Self-energy

  • Why combining IFS and ERP may provide better outcomes for some people

  • "Self-led ERP" โ€“ Melissa's integrative model for treating OCD

  • Real-life examples of recovery using this compassionate framework

  • The importance of identifying OCD early, especially in kids

  • Training efforts to help clinicians recognize and effectively treat OCD

  • Hope for those who feel "too far gone"


โฑ๏ธ Episode Chapters & Timestamps:

00:00 โ€“ Intro to Melissa Mose and IFS for OCD
03:00 โ€“ Melissa's background and shift from English literature to psychology
08:00 โ€“ Early career in teen and family systems therapy
11:00 โ€“ Her daughter's sudden-onset OCD and the diagnosis of PANDAS
14:30 โ€“ Navigating confusion, misdiagnosis, and treatment discovery
18:00 โ€“ What OCD actually is: the obsession-compulsion cycle
22:00 โ€“ How compulsions generalize and worsen OCD
24:30 โ€“ Introduction to ERP and how it works
29:00 โ€“ What is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?
34:00 โ€“ Comparing IFS to ACT and other models
42:00 โ€“ Mapping OCD symptoms to internal "parts" using IFS
48:00 โ€“ A self-led approach to ERP: empowering the Self
50:30 โ€“ Client success stories and examples
55:00 โ€“ The rise of IFS in the OCD world
58:00 โ€“ Is IFS evidence-based for OCD?
01:00:00 โ€“ Melissa's "Self-led ERP" model explained
01:02:00 โ€“ Workbook and practical tools coming soon
01:04:00 โ€“ How to get started with IFS
01:08:00 โ€“ Inside Out, visualization, and self-awareness
01:10:00 โ€“ Making IFS for OCD more accessible worldwide
01:12:00 โ€“ Final thoughts: hope and next steps for those struggling


๐Ÿ“š Resources & Links from the Episode

๐Ÿ”น Melissa Mose's Website
https://www.melissamosemft.com/

๐Ÿ”น IFS for OCD Resources and Courses
https://www.ifsforocd.com/blog

๐Ÿ”น Melissa's Book:
Internal Family Systems Therapy for OCD: A Clinician's Guide
๐Ÿ“˜ On Amazon: Buy here
๐Ÿ“˜ On Routledge: https://www.routledge.com/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-for-OCD-A-Clinicians-Guide/Mose/p/book/9781032583730

๐Ÿ”น OCD SoCal 2025 Online Conference (November 15โ€“16, 2025)
๐ŸŒ Full Program Info: https://ocdsocal.org/conference/
๐ŸŽŸ๏ธ Register Here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/2025-online-ocd-conference-a-global-event-tickets-1531193865069?aff=oddtdtcreator

๐ŸŽง Stay Connected with Me

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, friends, this is the hardcore self-help podcast. I'm your house, Dr. Robert Duff.

0:03.5

Today, I have a very special guest to share with you. Her name is Melissa Mose. She's a therapist

0:08.0

who focuses on a very unique type of treatment for OCD called IFS or internal family systems.

0:14.3

Here are a few highlights from our conversation. Well, that was a personal life experience that

0:19.8

changed things. My daughter at eight years old

0:25.5

woke up one day with this really different kind of personality going on and this sudden

0:34.9

onset what we discovered to be a sudden onset OCD, form of OCD.

0:40.6

And I didn't know what it was at first.

0:43.5

She woke up the next morning saying, did I swallow plastic?

0:47.6

Mommy, what if I swallowed plastic, mommy?

0:49.5

Are you sure I didn't swallow plastic?

0:51.3

Would I be dead by now if I swallowed plastic?

0:53.6

Yeah, it does spread.

0:54.6

If you don't really work on limiting those compulsions and learning through experience that you can

1:03.7

be with the feeling of anxiety and it will settle down on its own, if you don't really have that

1:09.9

learning experience, it just gets worse and worse.

1:13.6

We have this experience of these internal dichotomies, struggles, whenever we're struggling with

1:19.7

something. We have different parts of us. What he added to that idea, because that's not particularly

1:25.8

new, is that our parts interact internally,

1:31.3

much in the same way that an external family interacts.

1:35.4

There's a part of me that's scared I might do something, and I know that's not who I am.

1:39.8

So with that access to self, people really do have a whole lot more energy around being able to not do compulsions.

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