Hey Jim Daley here. If you like the focus on the family broadcast and haven't

grown tired of this voice just yet, you'll love my ReFocus podcast. On ReFocus I

take a deeper dive with a respected thinker on different aspects of culture. I

ask those hard questions that maybe they don't get that often and I don't

shy away from challenging topics to help you share God's grace, truth, and love

with others. So listen to ReFocus with Jim Daley on your favorite streaming app

today. Thank you for downloading the focus on the family marriage podcast. You

can find more relationship insights at focus on the family dot com slash

marriage podcast. In the Bible in the Old Testament book of Genesis God says that

in marriage the two shall become one. But even after decades of marriage my wife

and I are not quite one. We're still two very different people to be honest

becoming one isn't easy. I'm John Fuller along with the couple who are closer

being one than I am Greg and Aaron Smalley. They're in charge of our marriage

team here at focus and we're gonna kick off the show with a conversation from

Greg and Dr. Bob Paul. Jim Daley was talking with them about the book nine lies

that will destroy your marriage and Dr. Paul runs our Hope Restored Marriage

intensive program. And on a previous episode Greg and Bob explained how that

first lies believing that happiness is the goal of our marriage. All right Bob

let me throw this one to you and Greg you can add on the second lie kind of the

equation of marriage and what does it mean? You mentioned that the the typical

wedding ceremony which I'm laughing because Jean and I did this. Yeah which is the

unity candle. It's beautiful. It makes sense. It's right out of scripture. I

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