#991 - Dr John Delony - The Blueprint for Better Relationships & a Peaceful Life

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 4.6K Ratings

🗓️ 8 September 2025

⏱️ 108 minutes

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Dr. John Delony is a mental health expert, author, YouTuber, and speaker. How you we build a thriving relationship in the modern world? With constant distractions and endless options at our fingertips, trust between partners can feel harder than ever. So what does it really take to create a relationship rooted in trust, intimacy, and growth in today’s world? Sponsors: See me on tour in America: ⁠https://chriswilliamson.live⁠ See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get up to $350 off the Pod 5 at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom Get $100 off the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Timestamps: (0:00) Should Your Spouse Know Your Passwords? (10:53) Why is Safety So Important in Relationships? (20:21) How Can We Solve for Peace? (28:42) Why Do Men Not Feel Good Enough? (32:44) How Can Women Make Their Partners Feel More Worthy? (35:33) Using Truth and Accountability to Build a New Relationship (39:16) What are the Biggest Female Dilemmas? (44:41) Can Infidelity Be Forgiven? (57:30) The Greatest Parenting Advice (01:01:16) Making Head vs Heart Decisions in a Relationship (01:04:30) How to Live Through Grief (01:09:11) Why Should We Live an Optimistic Life? (01:13:19) Do Kids Fix Everything? (01:25:47) How to Be a Better Version of Yourself (01:37:06) The Most Important Decision You’ll Ever Make is Your Spouse (01:47:20) Find Out More About John Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	If you are married, your spouse should have all of the codes to your phones, email accounts and social media accounts, and you should have theirs, period.
0:07.5	If your spouse isn't trustworthy or safe, you need to head directly into this challenge.
0:11.1	ASAP, you are worthy of safety and peace.
0:13.3	If you are hiding things from your spouse, let today be your independence day from secret, shame and fear, you are worth finally taking a full deep breath.
0:22.3	How did people respond to that?
0:34.5	Not well, man. Let's go. Not well, dude. Not well at all. The idea that privacy and secrecy are the same thing. They've been conflated and I think it's madness. I think
0:38.2	it's madness. If you will create a human with somebody but you won't give them the code to your
0:42.5	phone, I can't think of anything more insane. That's insane. There's a lot of dissonance going on there.
0:49.6	Dissinence is like a kind way to say it. It's madness. It's madness. That is why. Um, yeah, the number of folks that call into my show that are like, hey, I can't, I'm not going to give her my phone. And it's like, why? Like, what is on that thing? It's like, well, it's mine. It's like, well, what is so, what, what are you hiding, right? And I think every, every major pathology ends up, secrets fuel that, right?
1:14.2	It's gasoline for pathology.
1:16.3	And so, man, if you can't have a place in your life with the person your ride or die with,
1:20.0	you can say, like, can you check out my phone and get this picture off my phone?
1:25.7	If that causes you pause or worse, if your partner won't do that, yeah, man, you got to have that conversation like now. Yeah. Why does that sound crazy? Does that sound crazy? I don't think so. I'm an old married man, so maybe it doesn't occur to it. It would have done to me 10 years ago, but that's because there was loads of shit on my phone that I didn't want my goal that's it that's it's it
1:46.2	whereas now I don't care I don't there there I need to be worried about yeah so I I
1:56.2	what blows my mind is that conflation that that privacy issue, that privacy versus honesty thing.
2:04.1	So people, so my wife's a coach and I work in mental health, right?
2:06.9	So people are flying in all the time to stay at our house for a few days and then, or we'll go out into the country where I've got a place and people will stay.
2:15.1	I'll tell my wife, hey, I'm going out, someone's coming in.
2:18.7	So that's private.
2:20.4	But it's not a, I'm not saying like, hey, right?
2:23.8	I'm going to go run an errand, right?
2:26.2	And so, and she has clients, right?
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