#971 - Adam Lane Smith - 13 Semi-Controversial Truths About Masculinity

Modern Wisdom

Chris Williamson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 4.6K Ratings

🗓️ 24 July 2025

⏱️ 86 minutes

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Summary

Adam Lane Smith is a psychotherapist and an author. Are men the problem? In a time when blame is easily assigned, it’s worth asking whether men need to re-examine how they show up in the world, including their values, behavior, & accountability. In doing so, they might uncover surprising ways to help heal much of what’s broken. Expect to learn why so many high performing men have avoidant attachment styles, why choosing the wrong women is one of the most important decisions you can make in your life, what the biggest issues with modern dating are, why validation might be more important than love in a relationship, how to break out of the friendzone, why we need to stop comforting men to death, and much more… Sponsors: See me on tour in America: ⁠https://chriswilliamson.live⁠ See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D, and more from AG1 at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Episode five, you are getting into the upper stratosphere of repeat guests now.
0:05.7	I love that.
0:06.3	Next one, we'll have to do in person.
0:07.8	I'll buy you a beer.
0:08.6	I'm down.
0:09.5	I'm down.
0:09.9	All right.
0:10.7	Young men, if you choose the wrong woman, you are sacrificing your goals for a life spent
0:15.6	managing her problems that she refuses to fix.
0:18.1	The right woman will augment your life goals.
0:20.3	She'll be a jet engine
0:21.3	strapped to your back that pushes you ahead even faster. I've been teaching men this lately.
0:27.4	I've got a new course out about marriage. You are supposed to be the CEO in a relationship,
0:32.3	life, family that you're building. You need to pick a woman who's an appropriate C.O. Operations
0:37.4	officer who's going to work with you, a co-executive. You don't need a woman that's lagging behind, that's dragging at you that you can't get to the office to work. And you also don't want to have her take the lead over you because she'll resent you. You need to work together like co-executives. And when you do, there is nothing on this planet that will drive you
0:54.8	faster to success than that good woman. What does choosing the wrong woman look like? You're sacrificing
1:02.8	your goals for a life spent managing her problems that she refuses to fix. A lot of guys lately,
1:09.4	I know Chris, you've heard this. A lot of guys complain that women
1:11.8	have no accountability. I say that women who are living in a state of chronic terror and their
1:17.4	sympathetic nervous system is activated and they're alone. They're in a heightened survival state.
1:21.7	They're designed to try to push off responsibility for survival. That's a woman who's in a very
1:26.8	insecurely attached state. When a woman's in a very insecurely attached state.
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